13 Powerful War Room Prayers for Your Husband and Marriage
Marriage is a battle, but not between husbands and wives! Learn these war room prayers for your husband to help you fight the right enemy!
Sometimes I wish I knew what was really going on in my husband’s head. As a woman, I like to talk about my thoughts and my feelings. I need to process them and vent about them until they make sense…or they don’t.
But my husband is made differently from me. He carries around his burdens and feelings privately. He bears the burdens of taking care of our family, pleasing his employer, maintaining our home, and serving the Lord faithfully.
On top of that, I often pile my own burdens on him, too. He listens to my thoughts, feelings, and fears, and carries those, too. (And let me tell you, I have a lot of thoughts and feelings!) There’s also the burden that comes from being a parent and raising our two boys to be confident, thoughtful men.
He does all of this with grace and a truly humble heart and rarely complains. I wish I could take some of those burdens from him, but the truth is, I probably couldn’t carry them.
God created a man and woman to work together, to help and support one another. When I cannot take his burdens from him, I can carry them to our Heavenly Father. He has the power to help my husband fight his battles even when I cannot.
What is a War Room?
Several years ago the powerful movie War Room changed how many of us think about praying for our loved ones, especially for our husbands. In the movie, an elderly lady named Miss Clara had a room in her home dedicated to prayer.
She covered the walls with lists of prayer requests and spent hours of time in fervent prayer. When Miss Clara met a young woman who was struggling with her marriage, she shared her method of praying powerful prayers for those she loved.
While she was a bit skeptical, the younger woman started praying for her husband and marriage. She used a small closet in her home as a war room of her own. God used her prayers to touch her husband’s heart and save her marriage.
The movie gives us a beautiful example of the power of prayer. It is the most powerful weapon we have to fight against the evil forces in the world.
But what if you don’t have an entire room to dedicate to prayer? Trust me, a room is not necessary.
The power of God is not limited to a little box. You can be a prayer warrior and have an effective prayer life without having a war room.
In my own life, I have found that using a prayer journal and having a written prayer list and prayer points helps me to pray powerful, effective prayers.
A War Room Prayer Strategy for Wives
If your husband is the strong, silent type, and doesn’t always communicate his needs and the burdens of his heart with you, how can you even know how to pray for him? That’s where the Holy Spirit comes in.
The book of Romans has an answer for us.
Likewise the Spirit also helpeth our infirmities: for we know not what we should pray for as we ought: but the Spirit itself maketh intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered.
Romans 8:26
When we are at a loss for words and don’t even know what to say, the Holy Spirit takes our words to an Almighty God and interprets what we need. As you pray for your husband, ask the Lord to see your husband’s heart and his needs.
God is a gracious Father, and He loves your man even more than you do. Powerful war room prayers for your husband should include asking God to give him wisdom, strength, and grace in every part of his life.
Should you pray for his specific needs? Definitely. But you should also pray over your husband’s life, that God will protect him in every way.
Praying for the Challenges of Your Marriage
You probably know someone whose marriage is perfect. At least, it appears to be on the outside. It’s easy to get caught up in appearances and think others don’t have the same problems you do.
In fact, every marriage has struggles and challenges. Satan hates unity, the sacred union of marriage, and the nuclear family. His attacks often come out of nowhere and destroy even the most beautiful relationship.
The Bible tells us that Satan is like a sneaky lion, walking around, looking for his prey. (1 Peter 5:8) Even the most successful marriage in our eyes, can fall into his traps of sin and deceit. He sees the most vulnerable places in your relationship and in your life.
Our most effective weapons against him are prayer and love for one another. Take time to pray for your marriage, that God will protect you and keep you close to one another.
If you are in a situation where your husband has been unfaithful, my heart goes out to you. Rebuilding trust and love after something like that is so difficult. But God is powerful, and He can give marriage restoration if you both are willing to put in the time, effort and faith required to make it work.
A Simple Marriage Prayer
Dear God, I bring my husband’s heart and my marriage to You. Please help us to love each other as we should. Help us to be willing to see our strengths, and give grace in our weaknesses. Help us be faithful, strong, and ready to defend our marriage at all costs. Give unity in our home and life as we fight our spiritual battles together. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
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Spiritual Warfare Prayer for Your Husband
You don’t need to be a scientist to know that men and women are different. Not just in our bodies and physical appearance, but in how our brains are wired.
As women, we can’t understand the ways that our husbands are attacked mentally, emotionally, and spiritually every day. Our enemy knows exactly what to put in front of your husband’s eyes to tempt him to sin.
It can happen in the flash of an online ad, a scantily clad woman who walks in front of him, or a too-friendly associate at work. I’m not saying that any of these temptations give our husbands an excuse to sin. But I am saying that he needs the grace of God in his daily life to help him overcome these temptations.
He needs the power of his wife’s prayers as she takes his spiritual needs to God. Prayer is the first line of defense in our marriages and for our husbands. He may never share his inner struggles with you, but he craves your prayers for his protection.
A Short Spiritual Warfare Prayer
Dear Jesus, I ask you to protect my husband’s heart and mind as he goes through his day. Rebuke evil in his life and be a shield to keep him safe from the power of the enemy who seeks to destroy him and our marriage. In Your Name’s sake, Amen.
Putting on the Armor of God in Your Marriage
Our lives are filled with troubles and temptations on a daily basis. However, God’s Word has promised us that He will always make a way for us to escape temptation. (1 Corinthians 10:13) He has given us the armor of God to use–if we’ll only put it on. (Ephesians 6:10-18)
The Belt of Truth
Nothing is more important in a marriage than honesty. When you get to the point of “let’s not tell Daddy,” you’re in a dangerous place. Both spouses need to be willing, to be honest, even if it’s sometimes painful. Pray that God would help you and your husband to always be truthful with one another.
Breastplate of Righteousness
The word righteousness means, “morally right and virtuous.” While none of us is perfect, all of us should strive to be virtuous and please God. When both partners in a marriage are striving to do God’s will, a marriage with be strong and successful. A breastplate protects your heart from the enemies’ attacks, and righteousness will protect the heart of your marriage from Satan.
The Gospel of Peace
Ephesians 4:3 tells us how important it is to maintain a spirit of unity in our lives. When a husband and wife live in unity with one another and with God, their home will be filled with peace. If you feel friction start to rise in your home and marriage, you can know that unity is slipping away. And your peace will go with it.
Ask God to give you eyes to see things from your husband’s point of view. You may not always agree, but God can give you the grace to understand one another and maintain unity in your marriage.
The Shield of Faith
Let’s face it, marriage can be a battlefield. But it’s important to remember that the fight is not between husband and wife. Instead, we come together to fight against our enemy. We need the shield of faith to protect us from the attacks of Satan as he wars against our marriage.
The Helmet of Salvation
The purpose of a helmet is to protect your head from injury, and that’s what our salvation does for us. We can use this powerful defense to protect our minds from Satan. Many times in our marriage, we perceive things to be different than they really are. It can cause a lot of disagreements and fights.
We should pray that God will give us His perfect perspective to see the truth and believe the truth about our husbands and protects our minds from false thoughts.
The Sword of the Spirit
Did you know the Sword of the Spirit is the only offensive weapon mentioned in the armor of God? The Word of God is powerful like a sword, and we can use it to fight off the attacks of Satan. When husband and wife are both fighting with the Sword of the Spirit, they become a strong force no one can defeat.
10 Powerful Scriptures to Pray for Your Husband and Marriage
God’s Word is our sword in this spiritual warfare battle we are fighting for our marriages. When praying war room prayers for your husband, these Bible verses offer spiritual guidance as well as a practical approach to praying.
The Word of God is a powerful tool to include in your daily prayer for your husband.
Ephesians 4:2-3
With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love; Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.
We’ve already discussed how important unity is in a marriage, but how do you actually get there? By forbearing.
The word forbearing means “not acting against someone when you have the right to do so.” In other words, sometimes you just have to take one for the team. Remember, your husband isn’t perfect. And neither are you. In order to maintain peace and unity, sometimes we have to suck it up and take the wrong without reacting. But know there are also times your husband is forbearing you, too.
(Note: This does not mean we should accept or overlook sin in our relationships. Instead, we should be willing to see things from someone else’s view, and forgive those little quirks or disagreements with our spouses.)
Prayer: Dear Lord, help me to see my husband through Your eyes, and to love him with Your love. Help me be willing to overlook his flaws, and to realize that he overlooks mine. Give us Your grace to love each other and work to bring unity to our marriage.
Mark 10:9
What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
Marriage is truly a gift from God, and He creates the physical, emotional, and spiritual bond between a man and wife. Because of that, Satan loves to destroy our marriages. Mark 10:9 is a powerful reminder to us that God put us together, and nothing can truly separate what He joins.
Prayer: God, help me to remember that You joined me and my husband together. Help us to stand strong together in our marriage and fight the enemy together.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
The word love gets thrown around a lot in our modern society. People fall in and out of “love” all the time. But true love goes far beyond lustful desires. It’s a heartfelt choice that we make over and over again in marriage.
Love is patient and kind, even when the other party doesn’t deserve it. Love takes care of others and isn’t filled with pride. It doesn’t get angry quickly but stands steadfast and strong in hard times.
Prayer: Dear Jesus, give me Your love for my husband. Help us to choose to love over and over again, and each to put the other first. Help us to see the best in each other and choose not to dwell on the bad. Give us the grace to endure the hard times and joy in the good times.
John 13:34
A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.
Why do those lovey-dovey, googly-eye feelings of dating fade away once we marry the love of our life? Probably because once you’ve spent hours, then days, then years with someone else, you get to know their faults and failures really well. And the perfect, amazing man you dated disappears and a flawed human being appears in his place.
When you feel yourself noticing those flaws, it’s time to pause for a minute and think about the way God sees you. He knows every evil thought, every selfish deed, and every sin you’ve ever committed. But He loves you still. Ask Him to give you the grace to love your husband like God loves you.
Prayer: Dear God, thank You for loving me when I don’t deserve it. Please, help me to love my husband with the same kind of love You have given to me. Help me to forgive his mistakes and failures, as You have forgiven me. I pray that each of us will realize Your love, and share it in our marriage.
1 Corinthians 10:31
Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.
God wants us to do everything for His glory. Yes, every little thing.
We tend to think we can separate the “Christian” part of life from “the rest” of life. We believe there are things that are important and things that aren’t. But God says it’s all important. We should do our best for God by putting forth our best efforts in marriage. Do what we can to love and serve our husbands. And pray that God will give them the grace to love and serve us in the same way.
Prayer: Lord, I give my husband and marriage to You. I pray that I will honor You in all the actions of my marriage. Help me always remember that when I am serving my husband and family, I am ultimately serving You. Help both of us to give out best to You, and our best to one another.
Ephesians 4:29
Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
Words we say have so much more power than we realize! In a moment of frustration or anger, it’s easy to say harsh, ugly words that we can’t take back.
We should strive in marriage to only speak words that lift up our husbands and speak grace to their hearts. Will we do this perfectly all the time? Probably not. That’s where verses like, “Let not the sun go down upon your wrath,” come into play. (Ephesians 4:26)
Let us be mindful of the words we say and the lasting effect they have on our husbands.
Prayer: Dear God, please give me graceful words to speak to my husband. Help me not to respond to offenses in anger, but in love. When I mess up and speak ugly words, help me be quick to ask for forgiveness, and quick to give it, too.
Colossians 3:12-13
Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.
Every day we get up and put on our clothes; skirt, top, socks, shoes. But what if we made a point of also dressing our spiritual bodies with mercy, kindness, patience, and humbleness? I know it sounds silly. But these are the characteristics necessary to build a happy marriage.
Forgiveness, too, must be a part of our daily routine. Quarrels will be a part of marriage. But once again, Christ has forgiven us so many times when we didn’t deserve it, and we should be willing to pass that forgiveness on to others.
Prayer: Lord Jesus, please clothe me today with mercy, kindness, humbleness, meekness, and patience. Help me forbear and forgive my husband, as You forbear and forgive me.
Colossians 3:14-15
And above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness. And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful.
I’ve found that most problems in life can be cured with a little bit of gratitude. Love for our husbands and being thankful for them go hand in hand. God is the Author of peace, and when our hearts are filled with peace and gratitude, there’s not a lot of room for bitterness and anger!
Prayer: Lord, thank You for the husband You gave to me. Thank you for all he willingly does for me and our family. Help me to love him, and give us peace in our hearts and our marriage as we strive to serve you together.
James 1:19
Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:
I think most of us have had instances where we just snap and say something in anger. We generally regret it almost instantly. Instead of being quick to lash out, we should slow down.
Listen fully, then speak slowly and be slow to get angry. In fact, when we take our time, anger often cools and we respond differently. When we react quickly, we can cause a lot of pain and hurt in our marriages!
Prayer: Dear Jesus, help me to think before I speak! Help me to listen, truly listen, before I respond. Help me to be slow to get angry, and give myself time to cool off before I respond. Please, help my husband as well to have patience with me when I am less than I should be!
Matthew 6:14
For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:
No two people agree about everything all the time. And that includes husbands and wives. No matter how much you love one another, there will be times you have disagreements. (Or downright arguments!) And sometimes we hurt one another.
The most important thing we can do in our marriage is learn how to ask for forgiveness, and how to give it. There may be times when we don’t want to forgive. But all we need to do is remind ourselves of the times our Heavenly Father has forgiven us when we didn’t deserve it. Then, we pass that mercy on to the man we love.
Prayer: Oh, Lord, thank You for forgiving me of my sin. I am eternally grateful that You loved and forgave me when I did not deserve it. Please, help me to pass on that same forgiveness to my husband, even if I don’t think he deserves it.
Put It Into Practice
In the book of Genesis, we read the story of how God created the world. At the end of each day, we read those powerful words. “And God saw that it was good.”
However, there was one thing He determined was not good.
And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Genesis 2:18
God created a wife to fill in all the things a man cannot be or do. Our husbands are brave and strong, but they are not whole on their own.
These noodle arms of mine aren’t much help to my husband when he’s lifting heavy things. But my war room prayers for my husband and for our marriage can help to carry his spiritual and emotional burdens through my prayers.
Sister Friend, don’t be mistaken. We are in a war every day, and our husbands are, too. In this army of believers, our enemy isn’t visible and our weapons aren’t physical.
We fight our battles on our knees. Praying in the mighty name of Jesus that God will protect our husbands, homes, and marriages. Praying for the God of peace to give us hope and peace in difficult times, and true happiness in our hearts and lives.
The heart of God is near to you, dear wife. Don’t give up praying for your husband and marriage no matter what circumstances you are facing!
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